Numbness’s Effect on Writing And Ways to Recover

The graphic above from a Google Image Search pretty much covers emotional numbness, which is a problem.  In fact, it seems to be a growing issue with more people getting stressed out and pulling away from general society.  No, social media doesn’t count as all the human contact that you need.  So, what effect can numbness have on an author?

A really big one because this means an author won’t be able to access emotions when writing certain scenes.  Happiness, sadness, anger, and the like will be flat on the page since one won’t be able to stir them even slightly.  Yes, you can use the proper words to bring the emotion across and an experienced author might be able to get a spark within a reader.  Yet, there was always be something lacking for a reader who is drawn deeply into the book.  It can stand in contrast to anything written without the numbness, which makes the issue even worse.

Keep in mind that I’m not saying an author has to go into a rage to write anger or weep to create sadness.  I mean, being able to sense the emotion on some level and remember or imagine what it feels like on a deep level.  With numbness, you can have trouble pulling at the emotions with ease.  Forget jumping between them if you have different characters feeling different things at the same time.  You’ll have a struggle without realizing it and your writing will suffer.  If not flat then you’re going to have a lot of jerkiness within the scene.

Unfortunately, most people need to have their numbness pointed out by those who care about them.  It isn’t something you can easily be aware about because you hit survival mode and simply keep going through life.  Dealing with the stresses and not getting a break for an extended period of time gets away from you.  The numbness comes on gradually too, which means it’s easy to fall into the abyss.

There are a few things to do for recovery or even avoiding the problem in the first place:

  1. Always take time to relax and do something fun.  Get your mind off your stresses for even an hour because they aren’t going away through fixation.  This could be taking a midday walk, watching a movie every Friday evening, jigsaw puzzle time before bed, or whatever activity helps you relax.
  2. Maintain some social connections beyond social media.  Since most of human communication is nonverbal and paraverbal, we need to interact with other people to get the full effect.  Adulthood isn’t the best for getting together with friends unless you hit retirement or everyone is on the same schedule.  So, joining local groups that share your interests can help.  For example, I go out to play Pokemon Go every Wednesday evening with other players for a weekly event.  Even if I’m not talking much, I’m socializing.
  3. Being healthy in general can increase your mood.  Exercise, meditation, sleeping the proper amount of time, and eating healthy can all increase your emotions.  This will also reduce any physical maladies that cause stress.
  4. See a therapist if needed and possible.  Yeah, I know insurance makes this a challenge, but even a monthly visit can have positive effects.

So, what do other people think of emotional numbness in general and with writing?

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Guest Post – Esther Chilton – The Secret Dragon – Pre-Order Launch – #newbook

I want to welcome Esther Chilton to Fiction Favorites. Most of you know Esther as a fun blogger who puts up some interesting prompts. She also blogs …

Guest Post – Esther Chilton – The Secret Dragon – Pre-Order Launch – #newbook
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Revisting Animal Characters

Denise here to revisit a favorite subject of mine animals, and writing. When I was young, I was drawn to books about animals and that hasn’t changed.…

Revisting Animal Characters
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Teaser Tuesday: Abandoned Ship

Cover Art by Jason Pedersen

(A fun excerpt from Prodigy of Rainbow Tower.  Nice to put something with Fritz Warrenberg on the blog.)

Luke smiles before vaulting over the railing to the deck below. He sees that Nimby and Fritz are already waiting on the escape raft. Luke takes a cautious step onto the simple craft and signals for the sailors to start lowering them into the river. His stomach lurches almost immediately after the current starts to pull the raft towards the wreck. A hard gulp keeps Luke from throwing up and he takes one of the long poles that were strapped to the floor. Fritz steers with the rudder while Luke and Nimby stand ready to push them to safety with the long poles. A simple shove is all it takes for them to keep the raft a safe distance away from the muddy coast.

“Keep up the good work, guys,” Fritz says as the raft comes around the side of the River Scout. “The current is on our side, so we should be there in a minute.”

“This is just what I needed after Hero’s Gate. I can finally stretch my legs and get some abandoned loot,” Nimby announces, his face beaming.

“I think I’m going to vomit,” Luke groans. He leans over the edge of the raft, putting his face a few inches from the water. Luke’s face is drenched as the water suddenly rises up to hit him.

“You’re helpless on the water, Luke. After all this time, I would have thought that your stomach would have adapted to the motion of the river,” Nimby claims. He pushes the raft away from a tree with all of his strength. “Have you been taking the ginger pills?”

“Yes, but this kind of travel is a lot rougher when on a small raft. How close are-” starts Luke.

Luke tumbles into the water as the raft is suddenly washed against the capsized ship. He splashes about and sputters while his friends go about securing the raft. A heavy stone with a chain tied around it is quickly shoved into the water. The other end of the chain is securely fastened to a bolt on the side of the craft, which Luke grabs before the current can drag him under the wreck. Fritz takes his time picking up the oil bags and Nimby helps him hop to the shipwreck. They carefully climb their way to the hole in the side of the shipwreck and are about to enter when they stop for a second as if they forgot something.

“What happened to Luke?” Nimby asks, looking around.

“I thought he went on ahead as soon as we landed,” Fritz replies, adjusting the oil bags on his back.

“I don’t think he went ahead of us,” the halfling contends.

Fritz scratches his head and sighs. “I stopped the raft, tossed over the anchor, and he was gone when I turned back around. He usually leaps in without waiting for the rest of us. Still, he would normally say something.”

“True. I wonder where he went,” Nimby nervously mutters.

“He could have fallen off the raft because nobody warned him that we would be hitting the broken ship,” grumbles a voice from behind them.

“I doubt that, Fritz,” Nimby says with a friendly laugh. “Luke is too agile to fall off the raft. He might be a little sick right now, but that would just be embarrassing for him to tumble into the water because of a minor jostle.”

“I didn’t suggest that scenario,” Fritz admits.

“I did,” Luke growls. Both of them turn around to see the half-elf standing behind them on the raft. He is drenched and looking very angry. Nimby gulps while Fritz tries hard not to laugh.

“We’re sorry,” they say together.

“I’m sure you are,” Luke snaps, joining them on the wreck. “I want both of you to prepare the ship for burning while I will search the ship for survivors. Maybe I can find a clue as to what happened here. Captain Higgs thinks it might have been an attack.”

Fritz nods and makes a swift salute. “We’ll call for you when we’re ready. Myilia told me that I have to set up a path of oil to this hole. This way we can light it and not have to run out of the ship.”

Three feet of cold water meets them when they drop through the hole into a room fringed with dense shadows. Scraps of wood and various articles of clothing are floating on the surface of the still water. All of them feel the slight incline of the room as they wade their way to the door. The hallway is even darker than the room with no torches or lanterns to provide light. As their eyes adjust, they can see a few pale bodies floating facedown in the water at the lower end of the hallway. Luke is about to light a torch when Fritz pinches his leg. The gnome points at his nose in order to get Luke to sniff the air.

“I smell oil,” Luke whispers.

“Does this mean we should light it up and leave now?” Nimby asks, disappointed that his looting was stopped.

“We should check the ship for survivors just in case,” Luke says, letting his eyes adjust to the gloom of the hallway. “You two go back out to the raft and move it away in case the oil ignites by accident. Only one of us should stay in here because it will be very hard for us to escape in a group. I want to be able to get out of here as soon as possible if things go wrong.”

Fritz begins throwing the oil bags out of the ship. “Why do you have to go?”

Luke sighs as he turns to his friends. “There are many reasons. Most importantly, I don’t need a rope to get through that hole in the hull like you two. Just get moving and I will tell you the others later.”

“I hate it when he uses our height against us,” Nimby grumbles. He uncoils a rope from his shoulder and ties on a grapnel. With little effort, the halfling throws and hooks the grapnel to the hall.

Nimby and Fritz head back to the raft as Luke makes his way down the watery hall. The smell of oil becomes stronger as he reaches the far end of the ship. He gingerly moves around one of the bodies before stumbling away from a quick moving form hiding underneath the corpse. The river shark disappears into another room as Luke allows his heart to calm down. He bends down to examine the body and finds that the sailor’s tight face is stuck in a horrified scream.

“That’s strange. It looks like he was paralyzed and then he drowned where he stood without putting up a fight,” Luke whispers, standing up and scanning the hallway. “Captain Higgs was right. This was an attack.”

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Do Authors Need to Access Emotions While Writing?

I’m surprised when I run into people who think authors shouldn’t access any emotions while writing.  They feel one must remain calm, clear-headed, and at peace even if the scene is one of anger or fear.  Never been given an explanation of why it’s bad to become emotional while writing, but I’m assured it will lessen the quality.  Clearly, I disagree with this idea.

I think an author has to access the proper emotions on some level in order to get it across in the story. They don’t have to be weeping to write sadness or roaring in anger like their character.  One can ‘access’ the emotions without letting them take over.  Even letting them peek out as you write will help to pick the proper words to get them across.  For example, it doesn’t feel genuine if I’m sitting there meticulously thinking about synonyms for glee since that means I don’t feel it.  The words I use will become flat and the characters tend to lack the proper nonverbal aspects.  A little dab of what I need is enough to help cross that bridge.

I think my mentality does stem from the belief that authors put some of themselves into their writing.  Call it the soul, heart, emotions, or whatever, but a person leaves a trace of their inner self when they write a story.  This isn’t something the reader can see and point out, but they can feel it coming off the words.  It’s an energy that triggers emotions, which I think is best done by the author feeling them in the moment.  Almost like we’re leaving a slumbering spell on the pages.  It won’t work if you’re numb and stoic while writing a high emotion scene.

Now, I do understand where people are coming from with this.  We tend to be raised to keep our emotions hidden, so showing them is bad.  For women, they might fear being called unstable, bitchy, unhinged, or other words for mentally ill.  For men, they might fear being called weak, a wuss, crybaby, and other mocking, emasculating phrases.  It’s messed up for everyone, especially since keeping emotions locked up leads to blossoming mental illness.  Not to mention physical issues as well.  So, some authors might not want to release their emotions even onto the page because they aren’t comfortable showing them to others.

This act does come with vulnerability too.  If you put your sadness into a scene and a reader says it’s funny, you can feel hurt.  It might seem like they are mocking your pain even though they didn’t mean too.  Yes, a reader is open to their own interpretation of scenes, but that doesn’t erase the potential damage.  As I said, an author puts a piece of themselves on the page and that can be emotionally risky.  Many, especially new authors, might not want to take that risk.

So, what do other people think about becoming emotional on some level while writing?  Does it help, harm, or mean nothing to creating the story?

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The Lion Tamarin Quartet

One of my favorite animals when I was younger was the Golden Lion Tamarin.  It was the name, the look, and the fact that it was tiny.  Now, I’ve learned that there are actually 4 types of Lion Tamarin.  The interesting thing is that they are split by all gold, all black, black with gold head, and gold with black head.  Anyway, they’re all adorable, found in Brazil’s eastern rainforests, and endangered due to fragmented habitats.

Some interesting facts:

  • They are all arboreal.
  • They are about 12 inches (30 cm) long with 18 inch (45 cm) long tails.
  • They get to about 12 ounces (900 grams).
  • They use their claws to dig into bark for bugs.  They also eat fruit and flowers.
  • Both parents help raise their kids with the mother nursing them and the father carrying them.
  • Upon birth, the father takes the children and washes them.
  • Lion tamarins typically have twins every year.
  • While they are small, lion tamarins are the biggest of the Callitrichidae (Marmost and Tarmarin) family.

Pictures from Google and videos are necessary:

Black Lion Tamarin

Black-Faced Lion Tamarin

Golden Lion Tamarin

Golden-Headed Lion Tamarin

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Goal Post: Some Steps Forward And . . . Nap Time

The last few weeks of the school year are always exhausting.  I’ve said before that I get the stress of being a TA and a parent of a teenager during this time.  My son had his hardest regents this week, so it was a bunch of work to get him ready.  I only had Monday and Tuesday evening to help, so we couldn’t do much.  The inability to really help him out took a toll on me.  Mostly because I’m having other personal issues that are causing me to sleep terribly . . . Let’s just say narcissists are horribly effective at hurting others.

The rest of the week had meetings, events, appointments, and weather patterns that left my sinuses aching.  I may have made a few missteps in going outside for a walk whenever time and weather allowed.  Realized yesterday that the non-rainy days had bad air quality due to pollen and I think some fires far away.  So, I was triggering my allergies and sinuses before bed.  Going to be using Claritin for the next few days to make sure I get back on my feet.  That should lllllladffffffffffffghafo . . . Okay, that would be me dozing off while typing and my head going onto the keyboard.  Might have to make this quicker than usual.

Darwin & the Beast Collector saw some progress since I’m up to typing in the chapter 3 edits.  Doesn’t sound like much, but I spent a lot of time searching the document for noted inconsistencies and issues.  So, I did the big, sweeping ones while doing for the first few chapters.  That means I made more progress than the pile of papers on my desk would let one believe.  I’m still really nervous about the story and how it will all work since it has a mystery element.  That’s never been my strength, but changes in character personalities and other things caused me to do this.  Even as I type this paragraph, I’m worried about the timeline being off.  I need to rethink a few things, but I won’t have time to tackle it again until Thursday when we’re off for Juneteenth.  Definitely not going to finish the hand edits until end of July, which is fine.

The plan going forward isn’t too complicated.  Family is coming over today for an early Father’s Day dinner.  My son has two NY Regents (state-wide final) and a regular final coming up.  So, he has to study and we need to put 1-2 hours aside each day for some Pokemon Go.  The weather is going to be rainy until next weekend, which is going to wear on my mood.  Monday is a full day of school for my students and then we’re doing half-days until the end of the month.  So, there’s going to be a lot of tying up loose ends and conserving my energy.  Not an exciting life, but it has to get done.  Though, the ‘exciting’ part are the things I can’t talk about in public.  Maybe one day.

Well, that’s really it.  At least I’m only exhausted and not sick.  Don’t want to end the school year or start summer break being sick.  Weekend after school ends requires I be outside each day for around 8 hours.  Need my energy and health for that endurance match, especially if the weather is brutal in any way.  Thankfully, we have a few weeks before I can tell how rough that’s going to be.

Goals of the week?

  1. Help son study for Global, Earth Science, and ELA finals.
  2. Pokemon Go outings when steam leaving our ears.
  3. Get better sleep.
  4. Stay as dry as possible.
  5. Help students prepare for transition to summer.
  6. Continue working on frustrating puzzle.
  7. Watch Spaceballs.
  8. Edit more Darwin & the Beast Collector when possible.
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Questions 3: Advancement of Civilization

Everyone has their own opinion on society.  Not only its current state, but its past and future.  Most people will claim the time period they grew up in was the best.  Others will hate their time and look at the past with rose-colored glasses.  You have those who judge the past by modern rules while others ignore the bad of the past.  All of this creates a strange sense of civilization where people might not agree on much beyond the simple facts.  So, let’s get opinions:

  1. What do you think is the greatest invention made by civilization?
  2. What do think is the worst invention that others think is great?  (Said this way because I know most will say social media, guns, and other answers that simply work off modern societal conflicts.)
  3. What part of human nature do you think is the most important one for civilizations to appear and thrive?
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Poetry Day: Return When You Have a Spine

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(Think we all know this type of person.  They’ve been around since the possibility of an anonymous criticism existed.  Probably been around longer than the written word.)

I get your message
With no name attached
Ripping me asunder
As if we are at war
Yet this is our first meeting

 

I did not provoke you
With any true intent
You were not within my thoughts
Since I did not know you
A shadow beyond my circle

 

But here we are at odds
You shouting curses at me
My face naked and exposed
Your face hidden
Behind the anon tag

 

I temporarily indulge
Releasing immediate rage
Daring you to continue
Raising my anger
Until I lose my interest

 

You will claim your victory
After I have left the scene
I will go about my life
Never knowing who you are
Soon forgetting you exist

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Why ‘Show, Don’t Tell’ Matters: A Second Look!

Greetings to one and all. Beem Weeks back with you again for the month of June! I’m re-visiting a topic I covered a few years ago: Show, Don’t Tell! …

Why ‘Show, Don’t Tell’ Matters: A Second Look!
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