I have been trying really hard to develop a life balance. Many have pointed out that my world has been turned upside down in every aspect. There are only so many hours in the day too, so priorities have to be rearranged on an almost weekly basis. It’s been really difficult this summer since the job is 9-5. That doesn’t give me any time in the morning or evening once I get the important stuff done. Not to mention I’m dead on my feet by the time I get home and put my son to bed. So, what are the areas that I’m trying to balance here?
- Errands and Chores
- Me Time
Now, I tried to put this in the order that I prioritized them. I always put my son first and the job needs a lot of attention since it’s how I avoid starvation and homelessness. Errands and chores are needed since I don’t have anyone else to do these. To be fair, I’ve been the main gofer and cleaner in my life for a long time. Doing these things are almost second nature. Writing is further down the list than I wish it was, but it depends a lot on time, energy, and mood. Hurts just seeing that not making the Top 3. Don’t even know why ‘exercise’ is on there since I have on time to do it outside of the weekend. Can’t even glean 15 minutes out of my day to use the stationary bike or go for a walk. Finally, ‘Me Time’ is at the bottom. This is what I do when I finally get a moment and I’m too tired to write. Technically, ‘Me Time’ and writing can overlap. Still, I put this here because I feel like I put myself at the bottom. Just don’t have the time to pamper myself beyond making sure I don’t die or smell bad.
Sadly, I really don’t know how to perfectly balance this stuff. Not sure that’s possible considering most of them involve other people. If my son has a bad day or is sick then the other areas are reduced. If work needs me more then the others are reduced. You have random occurrences like blackouts, illness, people with requests, stressful events, and just a long list of things that are beyond your control. This is why I get stressed at times. I’m always being told by others that things will settle or I will find balance. Others tell me to work towards it. Yet, I’m routinely knocked for a loop. Many of my friends have the same ‘bad luck’. It’s almost like the universe doesn’t like balance. It requires chaos and a level of stress that keeps the pharmaceutical companies in business. And people wonder why it’s so important to take a mental health day from time to time.
The funny thing is that I thought I would give some tips, but realized I don’t have anything to say. Every life is different and I’m horribly unbalanced, so I shouldn’t be giving suggests for this. I’d ask for tips in the comments, but I sense that most will do the ‘take it one day at a time’ or something similar. So, I’m more curious about what people think of balancing life. Not how to do it, but just the overall concept. Perhaps one reason it’s so hard is that everyone has a different definition of a balanced life. Let’s see what we get in the comments.