Odd that this one is on the list and turns up today. It’s another in April of 2013, which was soon after I started publishing. It was also before I locked in pictures as part of my posts and when there was a lot more activity here. Putting a picture in to divide new from old:
Sundays have become infamous for low (or no) sales days for my book. Not sure why, but today is looking like it will knock off all those Amazon lists completely. I’ve been preparing myself for this and trying to find a way to soften the blow. I was doing okay until a thought crossed my mind:
I’ve seen a lot of self-published authors talk about how important ‘word of mouth’ is and I’ve preached it too. I use social media, support other authors, and do whatever I can to spread the word of my book and the books of other authors. I greatly appreciate the hep and advice I’ve received from all of the WordPress friends that I’ve made. Yet, there is a piece of my puzzle that’s lacking and it’s finally hitting a point where I’m annoyed.
Back when I set out to be an author full-time, I announced it to my friends and stated that ‘word of mouth’ would be essential. I told them that I would need their help and they eagerly agreed to do whatever it took to help me. So far, only 2 people have really stuck by this. Everyone else has either ignored me, bought the book without reading it, or hit that damn ‘like’ button on FB. Honestly, the ‘like’ button isn’t really a form of support for something like this. It’s just a well-wish and doesn’t tell all your friends about my book. It’s an action with no ripple.
Now, I made a small plea on my FB today and asked that people simply share my post about my book. One person did it and it’s one of the usual suspects, so I wasn’t surprised by that. I still thanked her for her unending help. Truthfully, I’m not annoyed at the people who are actually helping and they know who they are. It’s the ones that I thought had my back, but are apparently too busy to share an FB post. I’m ranting again, but you get the gist of what I’m feeling. Here are some private responses to my plea:
“You should stand on your own two feet and earn your success by yourself.” (Nobody really succeeds by themselves. Eventually, you need somebody to spread the word of your product or it won’t go anywhere.)
“I don’t read fantasy books.” (I didn’t ask for you to read it. Just hit the damn share button for a friend.)
“I don’t think I’d be much help.” (You couldn’t be much less help now.)
“You should stop this and get a real job.” (Good to see you’re in my corner. I’ll remember this when you ask for a favor.)
“My friends don’t listen to me on FB.” (Congratulations! Mine don’t listen either, but you have over 300 ‘friends’. I figure even two of them sharing that will help.)
“You can’t depend on anybody.” (That’s rather severe. Especially since you’ve depended on me for help and I’ve delivered.)
“Why do you keep asking people to spread the word of your book?” (Because going door-to-door with a staple gun and homemade bookmarks is illegal.)
“Here’s something with kittens to make you feel better.” (Great. Thanks. Virtual cats. How was sending this to me easier than hitting the share button?)
“Stop whining!” (Stop posting about what you ate.)
“You wrote a book?” (We’ve met in real life. I’ve been carrying a notebook and talking about being an author since high school. Should I assume you were ignoring me all these years? Do you translate everything I say to ‘boobies boobies boobies beer cake boobies guns’?)
That’s the real-life support that I have today. My family and I are going to a craft fair, but I might stay behind because I’m just too down. My wife seems to be a better saleswoman anyway. She’s handed out my business cards while doing temp jobs if she hears someone likes fantasy. If I go then I might be the toddler wrangler and let my wife do the work. After all, she’s got the cute sexy thing going while I’ve got the hefty sad thing going.
Thanks for letting me rant here. Needed to finally get that off my chest.




Charles,, I did not see a share button on FB and I assume you took the post down since I couldn’t comment. Hope you feel better.
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Wow. The post goes live after accidentally getting posted in November and the comment comes along with it. Did not know WordPress could do that.
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Amazing.
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Took me an hour to figure out why a comment was already on the post and what you were talking about. A little bit of Christmas confusion?
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And there you have it – you’ve spent yet another hour figuring out technology! 😦 Haven’t been on Facebook yet today but am going to your page via my personal page now to share because I understand exactly what you are talking about. Sometimes I believe I am a better friend to others than they are to me regarding this sort of thing! Merry Christmas!
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Merry Christmas. I’ve come to shrug off the non-help and cherish the shares that I do get. Only so much I can do without begging and whimpering. Thanks. 🙂
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I’m right there with you; at least you were brave enough to rant about it. Every time I start to, I chicken out. But seriously, why is it so difficult to hit the share button? Sigh.
Sorry I haven’t been around WP in awhile. I think getting back into the routine will happen fairly easily after the holidays are over.
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The holidays really do a number on progress. I don’t understand the share button avoidance either, but it’s become a pet peeve of mine by now.
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Yeah, I’ve been there. I ask friends who’ve read my book to put up reviews wherever they like, but not much response. I guess that’s why I write for myself and try to find markets later. This is a “revisit” post, so I know you made it through. Hang in there, Charles! (PS, eggnog with rum is your friend during the holidays.)
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Thanks. My friends don’t review my books because they can’t hide the fact that they know me. Amazon seems to frown upon such practices. I just keep chugging along and hoping the reviews I get are positive. I’m out of rum, but I do have some vodka. Russian Christmas . . . by a Jew? Eh, I can’t drink until the little guy is asleep any way.
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Maybe it’s because this is what I do, but if a friend told me they had written a book, recorded a CD, created a piece of art, or anything else like that, I’d be the first in line to buy a copy or do whatever I could to support the endeavor. I share your frustration that our friends don’t see the same value in supporting our endeavors. It is one of my great frustrations of this writing/publishing effort.
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I’m the same way. I wonder if people kind of stop after the first book of an author. The excuses did get amusing back in the day.
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