Lost or Stolen Opportunities

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I was going to be more upbeat today, but I got a thought stuck in my head.  I couldn’t shake it loose.  You ever have an opportunity that passed you by?  We all do.  Maybe we missed it because we weren’t paying attention.  It might not have looked like one when we first saw it.  This might turn more into a ‘tell your story’ thing.  Why?

One type of loss of opportunity came to mind.  It’s when one is stolen from you.  Maybe not you, but someone you care about.  I was thinking about someone in my life and the opportunities that they have had over the years.  Then, I realized that several of them were missed because of a third party.  That has to be the most agonizing one and had me spinning my wheels.  Even noticed times in my past where I was undone from smart moves due to other people.  I realized that this happened in two general camps:

  1. The other party simply forgot to relay some information that could have help.  You either find out after the fact.  This is an honest mistake even though it can cause anger and frustration.
  2. The more malicious one is when a person withholds information or makes a move that actively removes your opportunity.  This one hurts.  It could be done because they see it is a mistake, but there are times when they purposely want to get in the way.  Could be someone that wants the opportunity for themselves or wishes to urge you onto a different path instead of the one that is about to succeed.  I’ve been the victim of this one once or twice in some arenas.

Now, I’m not sure where else to go with this idea.  I realize that I’ve stated my point and that’s really all I had.  No idea how to identify this or what to do about it.  Maybe I’m just trying to toss this into the open.  Anybody else have something to add?  Personal story or advice?  Let’s converse and see if I’m just being silly.

About Charles Yallowitz

Charles E. Yallowitz was born, raised, and educated in New York. Then he spent a few years in Florida, realized his fear of alligators, and moved back to the Empire State. When he isn't working hard on his epic fantasy stories, Charles can be found cooking or going on whatever adventure his son has planned for the day. 'Legends of Windemere' is his first series, but it certainly won't be his last.
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23 Responses to Lost or Stolen Opportunities

  1. mothertherealist says:

    To further the silliness, you’ve reminded me why I don’t play “Clue” with my family. Every time, someone would forget that he had a card. I’d carefully construct my accusation, declare it, then hear, “I have Colonel Mustard; he’s right here!” I have become so frustrated I refuse to play with them.

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  2. L. Marie says:

    I’ve certainly had opportunities pass by, mainly due to my own insecurity. Many years ago, I queried a publisher (Bloomsbury) about a novel. Though the editor said no, she sent me a handwritten note saying to keep in touch since they use freelancers. Well, all I could see was the no, so I didn’t follow up. Years later, I reread the note and mourned the fact that I hadn’t bothered to contact the editor, especially since that publisher only takes agented manuscripts now. No idea where that editor is now. 😓

    I have had opportunities pass by because of delayed emails and I missed a deadline because of that. But I can’t say offhand if someone maliciously withheld information and thus prevented me from exploring an opportunity. I’m sorry that happened to you. 😓

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  3. I have had several of the situations that you describe, Charles. The good point was I moved in different directions and have never had to deal with the perpetrators since. Not dealing with them has made forgetting the events so much easier, which is the best thing.

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  4. V.M.Sang says:

    If/when something like that happens to me, I go along another path and don’t think about it. I can’t remember any specific happenings, though, but I’m sure it must have happened. I just put it behind me.

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  5. I’ve had more than my share of stolen opportunities, so I identify. The ones that drive me bonkers are the ones perpetrated “for my good,” because I could not be trusted to make the “right” decision at the time. I’m talking life-changing stuff, too; not whether we’re having pizza or burgers.

    Then I reason that I wouldn’t be the person I am today if things had been different. I like to think that things happen for a reason; even unwelcome things like stolen opportunities.

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  6. I don’t think you’re being silly at all. Everyone has some of this in their life. Today, I tend to think of things like this as plot devices I might weave into a story. Everyone can relate, so it could work well.


  7. inkspeare says:

    I hear you. I have experienced both. Although it was not a good feeling at the time, it directed me to other paths, and eventually I had to admit that it made me stronger. It helped me trust in myself more, and also see the hand of God in many ways, always helping me. Think of where you have been, whatever your situation has been, and see how much more wise and strong you have become because of it. You have an advantage now.


  8. There have been times when I heard about opportunities… after the publication was full. But I never thought anyone intentionally excluded me. More that I had not been trying hard enough to follow up on contacts. I made it easy to forget that I’m here.
    Since a few of those have been anthologies, I’ve really been trying to make more of an effort to keep track of those call for submissions. Which reminds me, I need to take a look at one of the small publishers I know and see if they have any openings coming up.

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